Archive for the ‘family’ Category

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Moshi Moshi

July 14, 2008

Rob’s parents and older sister are hosting Japanese exchange students for two weeks. Three boys altogether. We met them this morning and showed them how to play Wii.

I got all excited about showing them my photos from when I stayed with a family in Japan for two weeks when I was almost their same age. I found the album and plan to take it next time I see them.

As I flipped through the fat album, its plastic-covered sticky pages browned with age, looking at photos of myself wearing pleated shorts and button-down shirts tied at the waist, it occurred to me that my showing this album to these boys is the equivalent of someone in Japan saying to 15-year-old me, “I was in America once!” and forcing me to look at their pictures from the 1970s.

1991 sure was a long time ago.

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Just because you’re obsessive compulsive

June 18, 2007

…doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go back and check.

Isis has gotten so good about going into her crate after our morning play sessions. Might have something to do with the peanut butter ears I stash in her Hide-a-Squirrel and Mystery of the Pyramids toys.

I wasn’t even on the freeway yet when I realized that I didn’t remember closing her crate door. That happened once before, but she wandered into the bathroom before I left.

I decided it was probably that “Did I lock my door” thing, when you do something so unconsciously you don’t remember doing it. And so what if I did leave it open? Rob’s mom would be by in a couple of hours and it would be interesting to see what Isis would do with all that freedom.

Sure enough, I got a call from Rob’s dad saying that I needed to call the house right away, the crate door was left open and “Isis was a bad girl.”

Oh nooooo, I thought, I am so stupid. She probably crapped all over the place. Or chewed through the computer and TV cords…

Actually, she had gotten a hold of a bag of shin guards, which had just been washed, but were still pretty stinky. She scattered them around the house, but did no damage to anything. I can just picture her, with a shin guard in her mouth, shaking the hell out of it, dropping it, and going for another. I’m told she also moved all of the toys out of her crate and into the computer room.

The kicker, though, is that she didn’t greet Rob’s mom at the door, but waited patiently in her crate until Grandma came in the kitchen.

Man, I bet Isis had the greatest morning.

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Road Trip!

June 18, 2007

For our summer vacation the first week of July, we’ve decided to drive to L.A. With the dog. Rob wants to camp. Or sleep in the car. Fortunately, that’s at most two nights each direction, and we have a nice guest room waiting for us at my mom’s house.

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I stand apart

May 23, 2007

I googled “Daughter of Bride dress” and a list of “Mother of the Bride” sites popped up.

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Cotton

February 2, 2007

Happy Anniversary Q&A!!

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Dead Pets Society

January 25, 2007

I get a funny sort of depressed, nostalgic feeling watching the YouTube my brother made of Barney’s Last Day. It’s not that I feel sad for Barney…he had a great, long life in which he was adored. I feel sad for those of us that have to feel the emptiness of the furry little void he leaves behind, but that’s not entirely it either.

It’s like this picture, here.

That’s how I think of my mom’s house, on a sunny day, sitting on the blue-and-white striped chair with Barney at my feet. Emerald’s in the picture too, but he was only stationed there while I was in Prague.

Barney’s Last Day looked like that. It was sunny and he had a lovely time, sitting on his rugs, having a bite to eat, wiping his ear on the couch, ambling out to the edge of the driveway…

What makes me sad is the passage of time and the knowledge that it won’t ever be like that again. Things come to an end and life goes on.

I have a new house (occasionally sunny) and a new dog and a new iguana. Perhaps one day I can read with Isis on the floor while Stew lounges on the back of the couch. And maybe it will be just as cozy.

But it won’t be the same.

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My last weekend with Barney

January 24, 2007

I’m feeling a little better now. Have been able to watch the video of Barney, with the music on, and smile. Good old Barney.

When we picked him up from the groomer on the morning of our Christmas party, the groomer said he was losing a lot of weight and his ears needed cleaning. I took him to the vet and sat with him on my lap for close to an hour before the vet could see him. I enjoyed seeing all kinds of people come in with all kinds of dogs. Puppies mostly, getting their shots.

Barney lay peacefully on my lap, allowing me to pet him. As opposed to the treatment he sometimes gave me during my visits, in which he would get up and move to another spot on the floor if I disturbed his slumber by sitting down next to him to shower him with affection.

Some cat lady said to me as she left the waiting room, “I hope your dog feels better.”

I was sort of offended. Like she could tell by looking that the pile of white fur on my lap wasn’t feeling well?

After he got his ears cleaned, Barney did seem to be in better spirits. I worried that he’d be overwhelmed by the party, but he worked the room as usual.

Here’s a picture I took with my camera phone two days later, on Christmas, the last day I saw him. The stuffed iguana represents Stew, and is a squeak toy that belongs to Q&A’s dog, Zoe.

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Handling it

January 24, 2007

So I’m crying at work, because my brother made a couple of YouTubes of Barney (may he rest in peace. Barney, not my brother). Mostly it’s the Cyndi Lauper song that made me cry, so I had to turn off the sound.

I go into the ladies room to pull myself together and thought I’d feel better, less like a closeted emotional wreck, if I told my coworker why I was crying. She probably overheard me talking about it to my mom yesterday anyway. So I steel myself and walk out. She’s coming back in from her cigarette break and she’s got her husband with her. She introduces him and like a total weirdo I say, “Nice to meet you. I’m a little teary because my mom put her dog to sleep last night and my brother made a video on YouTube and played Time After Time with it.”

Way professional.

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Have to get away

November 17, 2006

My last job offered a ridiculous amount of vacation. Of which I took next to none, which might as well have been none, since nobody actually kept track of such things. So I got a nice departing paycheck in exchange for that relaxation I never got. Instead, it’s paying for the new insulation that has done nothing to keep the west wing of our home warm. Good thing no one sleeps at that end.

I am doubly grateful for that departing paycheck, direct-deposited as the good lord intended, since my current job sent my first two paychecks to the wrong address, and issued them in the wrong amount. I have yet to receive these.

In approximately 4 hours and 15 minutes, unless I leave early, I will begin an entire week away from the workplace. (Three of these days will be unpaid, as I have not accrued vacation days, but hey, EVERY day has been unpaid so far, so I doubt I’ll feel much of a belt-tightening.)

It’s hard to believe that it’s in the low 70s in La Jolla, where I will attend a festive backyard wedding and beach brunch this weekend, and the low 80s in my mom’s Los Angeles-area backyard. It’s also hard to believe that I can’t seem to pack for a 7-day trip without bringing four pairs of shoes. It’s not like there’s going to be a huge climate variable where I’m going.

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The Funnies

November 14, 2006

On the way to my cousin’s wedding last spring, my grandmother sat in the front seat, and Rob, my stepmother and I sat in the back. I think there was some concern that Grandma wasn’t always altogether with it, but she was never anything but lucid and sharp when I spoke to her.

She interrupted a lull in conversation to say, “But they don’t have Zits or Baby Blues.”

The rest of us were silent, wondering, “Is this it? Has she lost it?”

I think it was my dad who finally said, “What?”

“Zits or Baby Blues,” my grandmother said.

We had been talking about the relative merits of the Los Angeles Times versus the San Diego Union-Tribune, and Grandma had made a perfectly coherent statement about her comic strip preferences.

And that’s why I think of her whenever I read the funnies. I like the idea that my 94-year-old grandmother read those strips.

Kinda like on Friday, when Rob’s grandma said she used to watch Oprah, but she doesn’t like how people write in just because they want stuff. Like they don’t know how to clean their houses.

“I never needed any help cleaning my house,” she said.

She started watching CSI instead.

Last night, Rob and his sister and I sat with her while Rob’s mom went home for a bit. Grandma hasn’t woken up since Sunday, but we watched Oprah with her.

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